The European Hello: Bises, Handshakes & Nods

Ever found yourself in that slightly awkward moment, wondering if you should shake hands, offer a cheek, or just nod? Greetings across Europe are wonderfully diverse, reflecting local customs and a bit of unspoken social etiquette. Getting them 'right' isn't about rigid rules, but about understanding and respect.

Knowing a little about how people typically greet each other can smooth introductions, whether you're meeting new colleagues in Berlin or making friends in Seville. It's about connecting with your neighbours and avoiding that 'awkward zone' we all know too well.

In France and Spain, particularly when meeting new acquaintances in social settings, the 'bise' (pronounced 'beez') is common. This involves lightly touching cheeks and making a kissing sound in the air, not on the skin.

The number of 'bises' can vary by region – often two in France (one on each cheek), but sometimes three or even four! In Spain, it's typically two kisses, usually between women or a woman and a man, often starting with the right cheek. Don't worry, people are usually understanding if you get the side wrong!

When you meet someone new in Germany, especially in professional or formal settings, a firm handshake is the standard. This applies to both men and women. It's usually accompanied by direct eye contact, which is seen as a sign of sincerity and respect.

While less common than 'bises' in other countries, a handshake might also be used in informal settings, particularly when first introduced. Always lean towards a handshake until you're sure otherwise.

In the Netherlands, if you're introduced to someone, especially a woman, in a social context, you might encounter three cheek-kisses – left, right, left. This is often reserved for friends, family, or those you're about to get to know better.

For initial introductions, particularly in more formal or mixed-gender professional settings, a handshake remains a common starting point. Observing what others do is always a good strategy here.

In the UK, greetings tend to be more reserved. When meeting new people, a simple nod, a verbal 'hello,' or a light handshake is usually sufficient. Direct cheek-kissing ('bises') is rare, especially among strangers, and often reserved for close friends and family.

A handshake is generally safe in both professional and social settings when you're first introduced. Avoid anything overly effusive unless the other person initiates it.

No matter where you are in Europe, the best approach is often to observe. See how others are greeting each other and follow their lead. If in doubt, a friendly 'hello' and a polite smile will always serve you well.

Don't be afraid to ask, 'How do you greet each other here?' Most people will be delighted to explain their customs. It shows you care about their culture.

Embrace the wonderful variety of European greetings – it's all part of the continent's rich cultural tapestry.