Humour should unite the room
Many couples ask for humour in their ceremony. What they usually mean is warmth, recognition and moments that make guests smile. Humour works best when people feel included. If some guests laugh while others feel uncomfortable, the humour has failed.
Choose stories that reveal character
The safest humorous stories reveal something positive about the couple. A story about getting lost on a first trip together may show teamwork. A story about a disastrous attempt at cooking may show persistence. The laughter should come from recognition, not ridicule.
Avoid private jokes
If only six people understand the joke, it does not belong in the ceremony. Guests should not feel excluded. If a story requires extensive explanation before it becomes funny, choose a different story.
Never embarrass the couple
Avoid stories involving former partners, family conflicts, drunken incidents or anything that could make the couple uncomfortable. A celebrant's role is to build trust. If you are unsure whether a story crosses a line, leave it out.
Test the story aloud
Before using a humorous story, tell it aloud. Ask yourself whether the couple would still enjoy hearing it in front of grandparents, colleagues and neighbours. If the answer is yes, it is probably safe to include.
Good ceremony humour creates warmth and connection. Guests should leave smiling at the couple, not laughing at them.
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